Deciding to be a full time writer requires discipline, vision, and direction. There are daily challenges to your craft and the daily checking of your mailbox and inbox. Focus becomes your enemy in the beginning because there are so many distractions. The biggest distraction is rejection letters.
It is difficult, no matter how mature or evolved you feel you are to deal with someone telling you, that YOU are not good enough. Adding insult, to personal injury, it is being written, addressed, and sent to you, to say, you are not worthy.
When attempting to process these letters of hate and disgruntlement, I am faced with a word that was posted on Facebook by a friend, she simply stated “cognitive dissonance.” For those of us, a tad bit out of school, this is just a fancy term for sour grapes. If we go back to Aesop’s fables, the story of the Fox & the Grapes, is indicative of cognitive dissonance. Since the Fox couldn’t reach the grapes he concluded they were sour and he did not need them anyway.
I am feeling some kind of way about these rejection letters. I don’t want to just say that maybe those publishers are not right for me, because in my heart, I know they are not. I just submitted because I needed to submit. In all honesty, the work was not ready and it should have never been sent to anyone.
I am not going to have sour grapes because I am going to take to time to make it right. My skin will become thicker, my vision will become clearer and I am going to stay off Facebutt and TwitBook. I have installed HootSuite, and loaded all my pages into this app to reduce my distractions and move forward in my writing life.
This is my year.
This my craft.
This is my vision….
- Cognitive Dissonance (typicalhousecat.com)
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- Expanding Your Narrative (kenyatta2009.wordpress.com)
- Living with cognitive dissonance (hollycampbellsoms.wordpress.com)