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Growing into happiness

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I often chuckle when I hear my friends and colleagues boasts about being a grown woman, then I am more amused when I watch them make immature decisions. I watch them make choices that are bad for their personal well-being an the moment, and choices that are bad for their future.  The stresses of life  and emotional loneliness can be contributing factors to bad decision making.

I am often asked, what should I do— and as a grown woman, I have learned to sit and listen, and realize that my friends thought process, do not neccessarily equate to me to interjecting mine.  What works for me, may not work for you, so here is my advice to the many women who often ask me the same question, as well as  my advice to all who read this post.

If you are at a crossroads in your life, sit down in the middle of the street and make a list of where you have been, and where you would like to go.  As simple as it may seem, for some, just sitting still long enough to write a list –is an issue.  However, you can not fully understand where you are trying to go, until you have identified, label, misnomer, or  assigned the wrong psychological principle, to what you will soon learn to call– bull puckey.

That is what it is,bullpuckey— it is all the crap that you have convinced yourself is important, that in actuality has no real relevance in your life. It is the proverbial time on the treadmill where you are running  inside of the the little cage which you have boxed yourself in, that you are NOW calling a fulfilling life.  If you have not poured yourself a cup of tea, sat down with a good book or your favorite magazine without the tv on, to just read for 30 minutes, then how you are getting on in your life, well it is bull puckey!

If you have not or can not remember what you like to do for fun that is not associated with your husband or children, then how you are living needs to be reevaluated.  If you can not remember the last time you and a girl friend sat down and had a two-hour lunch talking about nothing….and realized it was the best conversation you have had in a long time, then stop.

Put down the laptop, get off of Facebook, and sign out of your Twitter account.  Get up off your butt and plug back into life.  Decide in the next week what you would like to do to better yourself that can be done in incremental steps, and make a plan. I will start you off with some suggestions.  You want to know why, because I am happy. Not in the moment, not for a reason, but because it is the way that I am living. I grew into my happiness and I want to help you grow into yours.

Here are my suggestions for the month of April 2010.

First we will start by getting you organized, to get the clutter out of your life.  I know, you have a Blackberry or some other gadget you are paying too much money for and don’t really know how to use.   Let’s first simplify with www.cozi.com and get everything in one place.

I also want you to start thinking about your summer vacation for the family and for you and your man (yes your man, and if that is not what you call him or how you think of him, we will address that in June) .  

For the family, you can save some money, give back to America and help the planet all in one.  http://www.thedailygreen.com/environmental-news/latest/eco-travel-volunteer-vacations-50022309.

Then plan a quiet get away for you and your man with www.cruises-4-free.com.

Tody is the day you take the first step to grow into your happiness.  I check back with you in a month and see how you are doing.

All my best,

Cheryl

Let a man be a man

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I am often asked how have you managed to say married for so long?  My answer is very simple; I let my husband be who he is.

 I have been married for 20 years with one child who is now in college.  Over the years we have had our bumps and hiccups and our struggles for power. One day my husband told me, you can be in charge of whatever it is you do in your office, but in this house, you are wife and mother.  Yep, go ahead, catch your breath, because I know I did.  My first reaction was to get up cross the room, and knock the taste out of his mouth.  But I stopped and considered his words.

 I took his words to heart and in year 3, I concentrated on being his wife and the mother to my child.  When he walks in the door from work, I greet him with a kiss, and now that we are empty nesters, sometimes skimpy lingerie.  Dinner is on the table when he walks in the door whether I have cooked it, or ordered out.  There are always leftovers in the fridge, a sweet dessert or something yummy to snack on.  When he is watching tv, I leave him alone and let him enjoy his show.  And you know what….he does the same for me.

 The mortgage is paid on time, my car is road ready anytime I need to make a trip, and if I want to shop, he will give me what I need. During dinner we have conversations about life, world events, and about each other.  He nurtures my need to change the world and allows me the freedom to do just that while I support him in being my man and taking care of our family.

 We often hear the phrase let a man be a man, but often misconstrue it as giving a man free reign to sow his wild oats. Letting a man be a man to me, means making sure he feels wanted and needed.  Because in the end, everyone want to be needed, but a man needs to be wanted.

 I know some of you will disagree, but if you have not been married longer than I have then save your comments. And just in case you are wondering, I have a masters and PhD that he paid for.

What have you changed?

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In such a volitile economy, we are having to rethink the way we live, do business, eat, dress and even spend our money.  The weekend trips to Blockbuster have been replaced with an On Demand selection.  Weekend pizza ordering has been reduced to the best sellers in the Wal-mart deli (with extra pepperoni and shredded cheese, purchased seperately of course) while we spend time with our families.  Dinner out is a $30 dollar swing for 4 at the local Mexican joint.

Amazingly enough, before I never had enough time, now, I have plenty of time to spend with my son working on my backyard and have even considered putting in a garden.  The neighbors, I used to blow my horn at on my way to somewhere else, have become a staple in our home playing board games and cards.

Our weekend getaways to the “big city” have been exchanged for exploring our own city and becoming members of local non-profit groups and giving back to community.  I even joined a writers network to brain storm and share ideas with other burgeoning writers. All in all, if being lead by a “comunity organizer” is having an affect on the American public, as well as the economy, then what have you changed in your way of life?

Quilting and Tough Economic Times

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In tough ecomomic times, butter and eggs were a source of income for many families. Butter and egg money, made from the excess milk from the family’s cows and eggs that could not be consumed, were sold to buy fabric to make children clothes. The scrap pieces of material were sewn together to make extra bedding and balnkets for the cold winter months, pinics, and extra pallets for guests.

This ecomony has impacted us all and I fear the worst is still yet to come, and although we are seeing Americans tighten their belts, and cutback on wasteful spending, women are going back to traditional homemaking. Besides, who wants to pay $4 for a cup of coffee when you can brew your own pot, and have friends over to catch up while creating something beautiful?

The time I used to spend at the spa (deep sigh, tear slowly trickles down the corner of my eye) and weekend getaways with the girls are now spent sitting in my home, and creating hand made items to beautify it.

Although, times have not gotten so tough that I need to buy a cow and purchase some egg laying hens, I do have to tighten my belt and spend wisely on the items that I need. I am starting at t-shirt quilt for my son when he goes off to college, taking his old t-shirts to make it into a quilt of all his past activities, so that he will have a daily remainder of a well spent child hood. This saves me money on fabric , new bedding for his college dorm room, as well as recycling the old t-shirts. I will be sure to share a final picture of the project once it is finished.

Now, tell me what are you doing in these tough times to make a difference in your family’s income?

Ways to use a Virtual Assistant

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DATABASE MANAGEMENT
• entering business card data into a database
• sending an introductory letter to new prospect leads
• sending scheduled marketing pieces to clients and prospects
DESKTOP PUBLISHING
• designing and printing brochures and business cards
• creating flyers, price lists, and other marketing documents

INTERNET SERVICES
• maintaining a newsletter subscription database
• posting announcements and newsletter issues to the list
• editing or uploading new information to a website

PRESENTATIONS
• preparing PowerPoint slides from sketches of diagrams and charts

RESEARCH
• monitoring periodicals and clipping articles of interest
• visiting the library to copy specific articles

SECRETARIAL SERVICES
• scheduling or rescheduling appointments
• tracking birthdays, anniversaries, and other important dates
• sending out the appropriate cards or gifts for special events
• managing lists of necessary office supplies and ordering refills

WORD PROCESSING
• typing handwritten notes from a meeting or seminar
• typing letters, printing on stationery, addressing, and mailing
• proofreading, editing, and checking spelling / grammar
• laying out larger documents

Start Networking

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Recently I added Facebook to my social networking channels to see who else I could connect with before the dreaded high school reunion.

It has been amazing the number of classmates that I lost touch with or people, who were once critical in my every day, that I had not spoken to in years, were happy to see my face. Which begs two questions, how important were they, and why did I loose touch?

We loose touch for the simple reasons that we move on, we have changes in our lives, or ‘those people” no longer fit in our plans. Do we simply close the door and move on, or do you find that many years later, “those people” still have the same view of you? if their view is still the same, then maybe what we were moving on from wasn’t “those poeple” but ourselves.

This month, I challenge you to reconnect with something you lost touch with, whether it be an old hobby, and old friend, or an old classmate. Because, in the end, what really matters is what you did when you are here, and not neccessarily what you did when you were there.

Connect today, and make a difference in your tommorrow.

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