Month: November 2012

Success Is A Club That Is Open To The Public

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Hasheem Francis

Success is a club that is open to the public. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t join. Come on in, they have your name at the front desk. # Built To Prosper www.BuiltToProsperCompanies.com

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Surviving a Hostile Work Environment

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I have come to the harsh realization that it doesn’t matter how well you do your job, how efficient you are or how well you get along with others, there is always some butthole striving to make your work environment unpleasant. There is no reasoning, there is no understanding, and there is only their single minded goal to bully you, until you either quit or they get you fired. These small minded people are unhappy with themselves and their inability to achieve the success they believe themselves to be capable of and have fallen short of the lofty goal of supreme leaders of their made up universes.  It has become torture for them that you are you, and you are happy and people like you.  No one likes them and they are only tolerated by their co-workers.

Then the unthinkable occurs. Everyone likes you.  Your coworkers want to be around you, and the Pariah want to know what is, that is so cool about you, Unassuming Employee Number #325.  You are approached by the office Pariah and unknowingly, you looked at them sideways or took three seconds too long to respond, and now you, yes you, number #325 have made their list!

It starts slowly at first.  Little comments are made left and right of you, then blatant comments about you and questions to your co-workers.  It now becomes malicious and they start to pick with your work and access to needed materials. Later you find the office Pariah has gone to Human Resources to file a complaint on you that, stating, “She is a bully, and I feel unsafe.”  It doesn’t matter that the Pariah is a man with a small set of cajones, and you are a woman, they feel threatened and that is all that matters.

You don’t have to take it, because the legal term is creating a hostile work environment.  This person is a bully. A weak, insecure, small cajoned, bully! They are creating a hostile work environment and you, yes you, and are starting to feel hostile.  Personally, my best friend is an attorney, so I always have a legal brief prepped and ready to roll, but sometimes, even that is unnecessary.  Here are some words of wisdom by Pastor T.D. Jakes for surviving a hostile work environment.

  1. Understand that God anoints you for trouble. Be sure you are a Christian. Put on the armor of God before going to work.
  2. Don’t expect to be appreciated. Your only expectation should be to get a paycheck. Don’t come to work to have personal relationships. Don’t allow what you do to affect who you are.

    3. Do your job well, but remember your mission. God put you there to be a light.

    4. Seek opportunities to change the atmosphere without commenting on the problems. You have a God to talk to. You’re on an assignment. In quietness and competence shall be your strength.

    5. Don’t let your environment get inside of you. You should influence it, not let it influence you. Stop going to work to be fed- you didn’t come to receive, you came to give.

    6. Increase your capacity to work with different personalities. God will often bless you through people you don’t even like!

    7. Remember where you are does not define where you are going. This will deliver you from frustration. God has a plan for your life. Keep your eye on the prize. When Peter did this, he was able to walk in what other people sank in!

    8. Get the optimum results with minimal confusion. Be effective without making the environment worse.

    9. Don’t be associated with one group or clique. Labels limit your usefulness. God wants you to work with everybody but be labeled by nobody. Use all your gifts.

    10. Always keep your song near you. Keep a consecrated place in your soul. Hold on to your praise.

 

In the meantime, be good to one another. Life is too short to suffer fools.

 

You’re So Vain, You Probably Think This Post is About You

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                      This past election season, we have been blessed with mirrors that have revealed the true nature of some people that we have known all of our lives.  We have seen their Facebook posts, we have seen their Twitter rants, and most of all have been subjected to their political ideologies. After Election Day, I think we may find that we are distancing ourselves from some of these people.  However there is never enough distance to get you far away from some people.

I am talking about those self-centered, big-headed individuals that find a way to make everything about them. Randomly strolling through a blog with over two hundred posts, and finding a single paragraph that you think is aimed at you, well is just, vain. Deciding to download that blog posts and take it to Human Resources is well, just silly. Then to tell six people, who don’t like you, that you are going to do it, makes you just pathetic.  Here’s the rub my friends, usually trying to get someone fired, often backfires, and it is you that ends up under the microscope.

As much as we dislike what we are seeing in the media, what we are hearing from our friends, and what we are seeing posted in blogs, the First Amendment gives each American the right to do so. Unless I specifically name you, the organization in which I am employed, or name names, within reason, I can say what I damned well pleased. You don’t have to agree.  You don’t have to like me. However, if you are reading this, and I am sure that you are, you may want to reconsider your actions. In the end, it is you that looks like the stalker and again, even if this wasn’t about you, you are so vain, you probably think that it is.

In the meantime, be good to each other, try to get along with your fellow-man and respect an individual’s right to be themselves. Most importantly, remember to get out and vote.